Tuesday, September 21, 2010

The Right of Husband on His Wife

قَالَ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ص فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ فَقَالَ لَهَا أَنْ تُطِيعَهُ وَ لَا تَعْصِيَهُ وَ لَا تَصَدَّقَ مِنْ بَيْتِهِ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَ لَا تَصُومَ تَطَوُّعاً إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَ لَا تَمْنَعَهُ نَفْسَهَا وَ إِنْ كَانَتْ عَلَى ظَهْرِ قَتَبٍ وَ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَ إِنْ خَرَجَتْ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِهِ لَعَنَتْهَا مَلَائِكَةُ السَّمَاءِ وَ مَلَائِكَةُ الْأَرْضِ وَ مَلَائِكَةُ الْغَضَبِ وَ مَلَائِكَةُ الرَّحْمَةِ حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ إِلَى بَيْتِهَا
 فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ أَعْظَمُ النَّاسِ حَقّاً عَلَى الرَّجُلِ قَالَ وَالِدُهُ
فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَنْ أَعْظَمُ النَّاسِ حَقّاً عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ قَالَ زَوْجُهَا
قَالَتْ فَمَا لِي عَلَيْهِ مِنَ الْحَقِّ مِثْلُ مَا لَهُ عَلَيَّ قَالَ لَا وَ لَا مِنْ كُلِّ مِائَةٍ وَاحِدَةٌ قَالَ فَقَالَتْ وَ الَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ نَبِيّاً لَا يَمْلِكُ رَقَبَتِي رَجُلٌ أَبَداً

Aboo Ja`far (عليه السلام) said: That a women came to the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم), and said: "O Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم), What is the right of the husband on the wife?" So he (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said to her: "She must yield to and obey him and must not oppose and disobey him. She must not give charity from his house without his permission and must not do an optional fast without his permission. If she goes out of his house without his permission, the angels of the skies and the angels of the earth and the angels of the anger (wrath) and the angels of mercy will do la`nah (curse) on her until she returns to her house. 

She asked: "O Messenger of Allaah, Who has the greatest right on man?" He (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "his father has the greatest right." 

So she asked: "O Messenger of Allaah, who has the greatest right on a woman?" He (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: Her husband has the greatest right on her".

So she asked: "Are my rights upon him like what his (rights) are upon me (i.e. equal rights)?" He (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "No, not even one out of hundred."

So she said: I swear by the one who has sent you the prophet in all truth, I will never allow any man to have a hold of my neck"
1.       Al-Kulayni, Al-Kaafi, vol. 5, pg. 506 – 507, hadeeth # 1
1.     Al-Majlisi said this hadeeth has a SaHeeH (Authentic)
à Mir’aat Al-`Uqool, vol. 20, pg. 318

Other Scholars who say this hadeeth is SaHeeH:
1.     al-Shaheed al-Thaani, Masaalik al-Afhaam, vol. 8, pg. 307
2.     Yoosuf al-BaHraani, al-Hadaa'iq al-NaaDirah, vol. 23, pg. 119
3.     al-Hussayn bin Aal `aSfoor al-BaHraani (d. 1216 AH), al-Anwaar al-Aluwaama`, vol. 10, pg. 5
4.     al-Madani al-Kaashaani, Buraaheen al-Hajj, vol. 1, pg. 249
5.     al-Haadee al-Najafee, Mawsoo`ah aHaadeeth Ahl al-Bayt, vol. 10, pg. 200

أَنَّ قَوْماً أَتَوْا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ص فَقَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّا رَأَيْنَا أُنَاساً يَسْجُدُ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص لَوْ أَمَرْتُ أَحَداً أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا

Aboo `Abd Allaah (عليه السلام) said: A group came to the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, we say a people who some of them would prostrate to some. So the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: Were I to command anyone to prostrate to someone I would have command the wife to prostrate to her husband.
1.       Al-Kulayni, Al-Kaafi, vol. 5, pg. 507 – 508, hadeeth # 6
1.     Al-Majlisi said this hadeeth has a SaHeeH (Authentic)
à Mir’aat Al-`Uqool, vol. 20, pg. 320


  1. Salamu Alaikom Brother,

    I think it would be wise to follow this informative post, with the right of wives on their husbands. Or perhaps a post about the proper dynamic in a marriage. This post on its own, may readily be taken out of context by the enemies of Islam. So, in my opinion, a follow-up post that speaks about the context of these rights would be extremely helpful and timely.

    Thank you for your post.

    Wa salamu alaikom

  2. what kind of a hadeeth is this?
    this is so fake...

  3. Just because our minds might not comprehend these aHaadeeth, you cannot simply reject it. These aHaadeeth have been authenticated by our scholars, and I have verified the authenticity, and this hadeeth is authentic. wallaahu a`lim.

  4. can u explain why u have translated waaliduh as 'father' and not 'parents'

    Some ppl have translated it as parents.

  5. Parents is an incorrect translation. The word وَالِدُهُ is supposed to be translated as "his father". The هُ is the "his" part.

  6. Nader,

    No matter how you cut it, you *cannot* deny that these particular instances of ahadith are denying women basic conjugal rights in marriage and in society.

    So, where are the wives' rights over their husbands? Even if her rights are <1/100th of her husbands, she must have SOMETHING, right?

  7. she has a lot of rights, ofcourse, he didn't say she does NOT have rights, he said they are not the same rights not even 1 in a 100. i agree he should explain the womens rights, but for the moment he is explaining the mens rights for those who do not understand. if you do not find it with him, then find it somewhere else, i.e. do your own research. May allah take any ounce of kufr out of our hearts, AMEEN.